Holding nothing back…

About Holding Nothing Back…

This blog started out as a general “whatever the hell I’m thinking about that day” blog, and fairly quickly morphed into a fat tolerance blog.  I generally use “fat tolerance” and “fat acceptance” interchangeably but “fat tolerance” describes my wish better than “fat acceptance.”  I don’t give a rat’s ass if you *like* me or the way I look or what I weigh.  I couldn’t care less if you find me attractive or sexy.  I DO care that you *tolerate* my right, and the right of others, to be respected as a person (meaning: not made fun of, degraded, devalued, or judged as less than worthy or less than moral) no matter WHAT my weight is.

My online identity is Pet, or MartysPet, if you please.  I am not “Marty” (although I *am* Marty’s).  Please don’t read anything negative into the identity.  “Pet” is a nickname my DH (yep, Marty) gave me when we were dating.  Neither one of us understood the possible negative implications at the time, and it stuck even after we *did* understand the implications. 

I was born in 1969 (easier to tell you the year than update the age yearly, because I *will* forget).  I’ve been fighting my weight most of my life, and finally chosen to embrace my body as it is, where it is, without condition.  I refuse to get vital bodily organs that are functioning properly, thankyouverymuch, radically altered in an effort to meet someone else’s definition of an acceptable body type.  I refuse to starve myself any longer in that effort.  I am who and what I am, and people can accept and like me for it or step right on down the road to someone that does meet their expectations. 

I have been married since 1989 to the most wonderfully loving man on the face of the Earth.  He has loved me through weight gains and losses, and honestly thinks I’m beautiful no matter what my weight is.  Together, we have 3 children that we love beyond reason.  =c)



4 Responses to "About Holding Nothing Back…"

I just wanted to get in before any trolls did… in regards to your last post… a BMI (and I love how you write it!) of 28 is actually considered to be overweight, not normal as you say in your post. I can just see some troll getting into you over that so I thought I would let you know. I hope you don’t mind and please feel free to delete to this comment.


You’re right. I was just writing off the top of my head, and got the “overweight” and “obese” markers mixed up. She’s two points below “overweight” because our doctor has been giving me grief about her being so close to “overweight.” I’ll edit it, with a note about why…

Thanks for bringing it to my attention. =c)

I really hope you don’t mind. I stumbled upon your gorgeous photo through a google search and have used it for a Worth1000.com competition. The competition’s name is Feeding Time and the object is to make a celebrity gain a few pounds using Photoshop. [url=”http://img253.imageshack.us/img253/8131/sourcesforjenmz8.jpg”]Here /url] is the link to the finished image (I gave you Jennifer Aniston’s face). I have linked back to your blog on my entry which goes to voting at 12am eastern tonight. If you have any problems with this, please contact me either before tonight’s deadline or any time tomorrow (in which case I will disqualify my entry). Many thanks for your cooperation.

Best regards,


biddee.w1k.com is the link for all of my Worth entries.

My last comment had the incorrect email addy. My address is biddee@hotmail.com.

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