Holding nothing back…

I felt more proud of myself…

Posted on: April 4, 2008

I do believe this, shared courtesy of PostSecret, is one of the saddest things I’ve ever seen.  This poor person has been so shamed about her body and her weight that she has resorted to bulemia to try to get control over it, to finally get a sense of pride.  (I’m assuming it’s a woman, of course it could just as easily be a man.)

Just exactly WHAT is so wrong with allowing our children to have self-confidence no matter what their BMI is?  Why can’t more parents see the damage that is done when we encourage our children to go on diets, lose weight, or otherwise be UNhappy with their bodies just the way they are?  Why can’t the media see the level of damage they do by glamorizing unattainable body types?  Why can’t models and actresses stand up en masse and refuse to starve themselves to maintain their size 0 catwalk ready bodies? 

My wishes for my daughters and for women everywhere:

  • Be happy with yourself, no matter what the number on the scale or on the tag in your jeans says.
  • Understand that the diet industry exists to make you FEEL BAD about your weight and to convince you that THEY have all the answers.
  • Understand that the “beauty” industry (makeup, plastic surgery, etc.) exists to make you FEEL BAD about your looks so that you will BUY THEIR PRODUCTS in an attempt to “measure up.”
  • Understand that the medical establishment doesn’t understand what makes one person fat and another person thin.  They probably never will.  They DO, however, have themselves convinced that fat people canNOT be healthy and will blame as many of your health problems as you will LET them on your weight unless you have a so-called “normal” BMI.  Don’t let them get away with it.
  • Understand that FOOD IS NOT THE ENEMY. 
  • Know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you are worth it, whatever IT is.  Don’t wait until you are “the perfect size” to buy a dress you love!  If you can afford it, buy it now, and ROCK it!  Don’t wait until you are “thin enough” to wear a bikini.  Find one that fits (there are several places!), and wear that puppy to the beach with PRIDE! 
  • Know that you are loved by your parents, siblings, friends, grandparents, aunts, uncles, children, grandchildren…  Know that if you don’t currently have a significant other, there IS someone out there that will love you, exactly as you are.  Fat or thin, makeup or no, long hair or short, blond, brunette, or redhead.



1 Response to "I felt more proud of myself…"

i love this post, esp the last point. well put and i totally agree. there is no need to binge and purge or even starve yourself to be thin. eat healthy and break some sweat would do the trick. i did try to loose some of my winter punds by cutting off my beer consumption completely and for that i had lost 5 punds for the last (a little bit less then) 2 months. its all about the alternative such as take the stairs instead of the elevator or eat wheat bread instead of white. usually aneroxic and bulimics are thin people and i dont get it – how much more thinner would you wanna be?
anyways, im loving your article and keep it up!

ps: usually you gotta love yourself before you can be loved.

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